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Being assertive every day


This activity will help you to become assertive in your everyday life. To do this you must decide on one specific situation in which you want to be more assertive. For example, you may want to say “no” to those who pressure you to do things you really don’t want to do. To help you in this activity you should set out a plan and then write a short summary of how your plan worked.


1. Complete the action plan below. Select an assertive goal from the list “Possible assertive goals” below, or make up your own.

2. Try your assertive goal for one week and at the end write a short summary of how successful you were at being assertive.



My personal plan

Set a specific assertive goal.

Select from the list below or make up your own (e.g. to say “no” when I am pressured to do something).

The assertive goal I have for myself is to:

When will I practise?

Set a date when you will start and another when you will complete the goal (e.g. Nov. 8 to Nov. 15).

I will start my assertive goal on: and I will finish on:

How will I benefit?

How do you think you will feel about yourself when you have completed your goal (e.g. I will feel better about myself)?

I will probably feel:

How will I reward myself?

When you have finished your week, you should plan to give yourself something nice (e.g. go to a movie).

I will celebrate my goal by:

Contract with myself.

By signing a contract with yourself you are more likely to do what you plan.

I will: (put in assertive goal) for one week and will reward myself at the end of the week. Signature:

Possible assertive goals

· To ask someone to do something with me
· To ask people to listen to me when they ignore me
· To tell my friends, brother or sister when they bother me - but in an assertive way
· To be more assertive with my boyfriend or girlfriend
· To say how I feel about things more often
· To express my feelings without putting someone down or criticizing them
· To say no when I don’t want to do something
· To say how I feel when people put me down or hurt me