|School Health Education to Prevent AIDS and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) : Teachers' Guide (UNESCO - WHO, 1994, 117 p.)|
|Unit 2. Responsible behaviour: delaying sex|
It is unreasonable to expect young people not to show affection (both physical and emotional) during this stage of their lives. It is important to provide alternative activities for those who wish to delay sex.
What the teacher does
· Students may suggest some physical activities during this exercise that may be difficult to talk about, i.e. oral sex, masturbation, petting with or without clothes, body rubbing with or without clothes.
· Be prepared to use local slang with the students.
1. Decide how to teach this strategy.
a) Form pairs or small groups in the classroom and provide each pair/group with one activity sheet.
b) Draw the activity on the board and have students work in pairs or small groups to complete the task.
2. Look at ways of showing affection.
Ask the students to look at the list of ways of showing affection shown in the first heart. Then have them discuss in pairs or small groups other ways of showing affection. Their suggestions may be written on the blackboard and the class may discuss together whether or not they are safe and acceptable (i.e. do not put a person at risk for HIV/AIDS/STD). When agreement has been reached on this, the students may write in the second heart their preferred suggestions for ways of showing affection without sex. You might expect some of the more physical affections to include: touch on the shoulder; kissing; open-mouth kissing; petting while clothed (above and below the waist); mutual masturbation; body-to-body rubbing (clothed and without clothing); oral sex, etc. Students may use quite a different language in trying to express these physical affections.
3. Ask the following questions:
a) Why is it important for young people to show affection without sex?
It is important because it: promotes healthy communication; reduces the chance of HIV/STD; reduces the risk of pregnancy; promotes respect for self and partner; reduces the risk of unwanted sex; provides acceptance, warmth and touch to another person and yourself.
b) Is it important to discuss this topic with a partner? Why or why not?
Yes, but it might cause embarrassment or it might end a relationship.
c) What would make it easier to discuss this with a partner?
If there was respect, trust and openness in both people; if it was discussed before being in an emotional and sexual situation.